are relationships actually “hard”?
on weak, unconvincing statements and expectations vs. reality
I have been wanting to talk about my relationship for a while, but I enjoy maintaining some degree of privacy in my life, given that I share quite a bit about myself and my inner world rather freely on the internet. So for now, I am probably going to write about my relationship-coded thoughts behind a paywall to create at least *some* control on the number of eyes that can peer directly into my personal life. If you want to read this essay and other ones I will write on this subject, you can upgrade to become a paid subscriber here:
Now, let us dive into my thoughts on what I see to be one of the most reductive, unhelpful, and borderline dishonest statements out there: that “all relationships are hard.”