Wonderful! So many insights! I’d been thinking about just how important rites of passage are, which give space to pause & breathe. Not merely placeholders that way..: Convocation. Break up. Notice period.
Suffering is a key element to the evolution of life. If there’s no suffering and no pain, why do anything at all? The task is to lean into suffering rather than run away from it. When it comes (and it will), welcome it, accept it, and use it to evolve into the next stage. Otherwise, if we are just masking the pain, the pain will eat us bit by bit. At best, we remain the same, at worst, we become bitter and resentful.
I thought you articulated this nicely in this piece, and gave lots of great examples on how to identify these stages in transformation. Great read.
This resonated so deeply with me right now! The timing is almost spooky, maybe kismet. You articulated so perfectly how draining it is to act out a former self. I’m experiencing this full force right now but the notion on leaving in connection is very grounding. Much love!
i’ve been questioning my internal pain and why confronting it can be so overwhelmingly difficult sometimes. you capture the experience of those pains so beautifully that i will continue to return to them for comfort. thank you!
so glad it resonated! internal pain can certainly be hard to both place and face. fortunately, with enough effort, time and introspection, its source (and thus solution!) usually reveals itself. i am grateful the piece could provide some comfort, and i really appreciate you reading and commenting! :)
I was trying to articulate why I felt a rush of freedom when I interacted with new people. I could present the self that I was, instead of trying to live up to the self that people knew me as.
I used to wish that I could change my identity every now and then just to be able to present myself as authentically as possible without the weight of potentially disappointing people by being "someone else", even though I was only trying to be myself.
The point that you made on how you can love someone even though you've outgrown them was something that truly resonated with me.
Wonderful! So many insights! I’d been thinking about just how important rites of passage are, which give space to pause & breathe. Not merely placeholders that way..: Convocation. Break up. Notice period.
Beautifully articulated.
Suffering is a key element to the evolution of life. If there’s no suffering and no pain, why do anything at all? The task is to lean into suffering rather than run away from it. When it comes (and it will), welcome it, accept it, and use it to evolve into the next stage. Otherwise, if we are just masking the pain, the pain will eat us bit by bit. At best, we remain the same, at worst, we become bitter and resentful.
I thought you articulated this nicely in this piece, and gave lots of great examples on how to identify these stages in transformation. Great read.
this is beatiful. it perfectly articulates the phase of my journey i am right now.
This resonated so deeply with me right now! The timing is almost spooky, maybe kismet. You articulated so perfectly how draining it is to act out a former self. I’m experiencing this full force right now but the notion on leaving in connection is very grounding. Much love!
it's definitely draining to keep performing that self once it has passed. so glad you found resonance in the piece :)
i’ve been questioning my internal pain and why confronting it can be so overwhelmingly difficult sometimes. you capture the experience of those pains so beautifully that i will continue to return to them for comfort. thank you!
so glad it resonated! internal pain can certainly be hard to both place and face. fortunately, with enough effort, time and introspection, its source (and thus solution!) usually reveals itself. i am grateful the piece could provide some comfort, and i really appreciate you reading and commenting! :)
I was trying to articulate why I felt a rush of freedom when I interacted with new people. I could present the self that I was, instead of trying to live up to the self that people knew me as.
I used to wish that I could change my identity every now and then just to be able to present myself as authentically as possible without the weight of potentially disappointing people by being "someone else", even though I was only trying to be myself.
The point that you made on how you can love someone even though you've outgrown them was something that truly resonated with me.